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“Did it ever occur that you forgave yourself before I did?”
— Sampha

I posted this a few weeks ago, but I’d really appreciate some feedback. Take a listen and let me know what you think!

Thoughts on the “friend zone” from a modern man’s perspective:

A woman has the right to be uninterested in any man who is interested in her. This is fact and all men need to accept this. BUT there is a reason that we have a hard time accepting this. Every television show, movie and fairy tale we read while growing up told us that we were going to get the girl and that no matter what, even if she didn’t see it right away, she would come around eventually. We watched it, we dreamed it and we believed it. But it is a lie. In a lot of cases, she will never be interested and that is OK.

Fictional stories of unlikely love are an idealist’s wishful thinking. In the same way we want to teach our daughters that they don’t need a prince charming to come and save them, we need to teach our sons that there is no helpless princess for them to save. To end this cycle, we need to change our fairy tales. No more “love at first sight” and “happily ever after” because most times the person you love first won’t love you back. And that does not make them a bitch or an asshole, it makes them a human who is looking for something other than what you have to offer.

Let’s read our children the true stories of our loves before they go to bed instead of the sugarcoated dreams that were read to us. Perhaps their grandparents will lament over lost “romance,” but the truth behind their sadness is that they will be mourning an ideal that never really existed. Let’s save our kids the bitterness that comes with the idea of the “friend zone” by never teaching them the entitlement that we were taught.

“I’ve got something to tell you but don’t know how I’m gonna say it. I guess that I can only say one thing; girl, I’ve been bad again.”
— The Weeknd